Being yourself, self esteem, self-reliance, independence, selfishness – Phrases, that we hear mostly from so-called youth now-a days!!
Yesterday, one of my friends, who is as old as my mom working in the software industry came home for Diwali celebrations…we were chitchatting, discussing issues and commenting on certain real-life on TV etc…. She said, I don’t realise the age gap between us. …. and I smiled and said neither do I…. she continued, “your mindset and attitude is no where near the “carefree attitude of the your generation””
Well, I did not know honestly, to take it as a compliment or comment…well, as usual, taken as a compliment: -D!! Later, I was thinking about it at dinner…and this is what I felt!!
Well, to be honest with you, I am girl with attitude that fits perfectly with 50 yr old British person!! Is it that I am not what all I told in first 2 lines?? Nah!! I am very much those lines!!
The above two lines are taken advantage of. …People who really don’t understand the meaning use them often…It has become an excuse, a way to get over things, a phrase to stop all arguments, a cover for everything done…something that makes the listener feel helpless, fed up!!
Well, do I understand them then???
I don’t know if this is right as perceived by others…. but this is what I believe is right!!
Being yourself is being what you are…it might not be right for others but it should definitely feel right for you! It is when you can answer your conscience honestly!! Its difficult but not impossible….As ~Henri Frederic Amiel says “ Learn to… be what you are, and learn to resign with a good grace all that you are not.”
Independence, is being able to take care of oneself properly…it is mental independence…. and may include financial, social etc depending on the person…being independent should give one a sense of responsibility, accountability….In other words, being responsible for one’s actions is independence!
Self-esteem, as the word suggests is respect for oneself….we develop this automatically when the above two happen – responsibility and honesty!
Selfishness – as I mentioned in my previous post, that’s how I perceive it.
What do you think??
Later in the evening I felt, Am I not the proud part of the YOUTH/younger generation now?? Or Am I not feeling proud being a part of it?
Well, the answer I got is, I do feel proud but when someone points out I am not like a part of them – that person gives it as a compliment – which means their perception about youth is negative and I cant really argue with enough reasons/back-up. This should really change and its in our hands aint it?